Help me. this is a REAL life Question and i need suggestions

[michaeld20]

okay yesterday i texted this girl i am deathly fond of. i asked her out. she said
1) Mike, be a real man ask me to my face.
2) this jacka** in my partner class said that she said i was a creep and im not sure if hes being truthful. i dont know how he found out about the text, he said that "She" told him
3) now i feel awkward whenever i see her. (and dont even think about saying what i think you will say!)
4) My best friend is trying to get me through this. its getting harder every time i see her though.

If any of you can answer these question please do. and i need all the moral support i can get.

[jagorrax]

1) Mike, be a real man ask me to my face.

Ask her. The more you wait the worse it will get. It seems to me that she is asking you to ask her. Stop waiting and do it. Consider the outcomes of both situations. If you wait, you get more uncomfortable, and eventually that "jackass in your partner class" is going to be the one to ask her out. You like her; if she doesn't like you back, thats her loss, but at least you will get closure. If she says no, then let me know, I can help you afterwards. (and i don't mean talk you through a depressive point in your life. i mean i can really help you with girl issues.)

Let me know what happens.

[michaeld20]

1) Mike, be a real man ask me to my face.

Ask her. The more you wait the worse it will get. It seems to me that she is asking you to ask her. Stop waiting and do it. Consider the outcomes of both situations. If you wait, you get more uncomfortable, and eventually that "jackass in your partner class" is going to be the one to ask her out. You like her; if she doesn't like you back, thats her loss, but at least you will get closure. If she says no, then let me know, I can help you afterwards. (and i don't mean talk you through a depressive point in your life. i mean i can really help you with girl issues.)

Let me know what happens.

thanks jag <3

[SneakyPie]

Honestly you have nothing to lose.

If she does think you are a creep, then asking her in person won't make a difference.

Is she doesn't think you are a creep, then asking her in person will make all the difference.

[Lord_Mountbatten]

I wouldn't ask someone out via the use of any kind of technology. It would be face to Jeeves.

A man needs his intermediaries.

[michaeld20]

Honestly you have nothing to lose.

If she does think you are a creep, then asking her in person won't make a difference.

Is she doesn't think you are a creep, then asking her in person will make all the difference.

i never looked at it that way <3

[vallorn]

its always better to ask this kind of thing in person. texts lack body/facial launuage and tone. i can never read sarcasm in text messages because of this.

and just ask her wether its true. as sneaky said it cant hurt.

[DuplicateValue]

Yeah asking her in person is the best way to go.

Assuming she likes you, it has a larger chance of making her like you more, regardless of how well you do it.
Because:

a) Confidence can be attractive.
b) Awkward nervousness can be endearing.
c) Having the balls to ask her to her face is always seen as a plus.

So good luck!

[Skunk_Giant]

DON'T ASK HER OUT!

DO IT BY PHONE!

lol, joking. As everyone else said, you've got nothing to lose, so just ask her.

[KaosuHamoni]

I've been told by a few girls that, even if your s**ting yourself, the fact that your are so obviously nervous, yet you're still asking her out, makes you seem "sweet"

But, as Sneak said, you've nothing to lose. If she says no, you'll get over it in a few days. If she says yes, you get a girlfriend =]

[Crashendo]

Technology ruins romance, Mike. I should call you that if I happen to see you online. But yeah.... ask her out face to face... The girl you speak of is probably also afraid as well.

[EricSmarties]

Man buy her some chocolates <3 they always work

[Blackadder51]

Dude. Say it to her face, never do that sort of thing via a txt, msn, etc. Hell even if its to break up, get your arse over there and do it. Whats the worse that could happen? After all its just school, when your finished you will never see 85% of them again.

Man buy her some chocolates <3 they always work

Tell that to my ex, she hated that sorta crap =D

[Skunk_Giant]

Dude. Say it to her face, never do that sort of thing via a txt, msn, etc. Hell even if its to break up, get your arse over there and do it. Whats the worse that could happen? After all its just school, when your finished you will never see 85% of them again.

Man buy her some chocolates <3 they always work

Tell that to my ex, she hated that sorta crap =D

And that, Black, is why she's your ex.

[MKindy]

Mike, your profile says you're 15. I'm 28, and used to be as shy and unconfident as you. If you don't ask her to her face, you'll regret it 13 years later. It'll just pop up in your brain from time to time and you'll be disgusted that you didn't take the opportunity. Go to it, kid.

[EricSmarties]

Dude. Say it to her face, never do that sort of thing via a txt, msn, etc. Hell even if its to break up, get your arse over there and do it. Whats the worse that could happen? After all its just school, when your finished you will never see 85% of them again.

Man buy her some chocolates <3 they always work

Tell that to my ex, she hated that sorta crap =D

And that, Black, is why she's your ex.

well played sir!

[StevK44]

Yeah Mike I'm gonna go with everyone here, ASK HER IN PERSON, one of the worst things for relationships is the cell phone. The last time I had a steady girlfriend was at the end of summer, it was going great so long as we saw each other everyday, but as soon as school started up and my rowing started to take up all of my time our relationship was reduced to an hour of testing everyday and the occasional sitting together at lunch, by the fourth week into school I couldn't handle the lack of actual human interaction and had to dump her. Which I ended up doing over text because that was what our relationship has become. It was the worst decision of my life to end it over text and it has only started to become nonawkward around her because I ended up talking to her in person and telling her my reasons for ending it. She told me that she respected me a lot more after talking to her in person. So basically that is how I'm summing up the fact that you shouldn't do many things over the phone when it comes to relationships, texting is good but don't let it become the entire relationship

[Blackadder51]

Actually how did it go?

[StevK44]

Oh wow didn't notice how late that post was. My bad

[arogon343]

so? you have a gf now or not??

[Lord_Mountbatten]

I'll assume by the deafening silence that failure abounds.

[MKindy]

OR he's too busy making time with the new lady-friend to update us. Go, Mike! :3

[Lord_Mountbatten]

I like to assume what's best for me though.

[vallorn]

I like to assume what's best for me though.

a despair donation to the crack fund?

[Lord_Mountbatten]

Erm... not at all?

*Cough*

[vallorn]

heres something to cheer him up: